Jul 172014
 

Talent - Discovery & Expression

Talent is the unique expression of each individual’s Authentic Self, thus everyone has talent.
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Don’t waste your time trying to be like others, rather invest your energy in activating who you already are.
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The Authentic Self is that realm of awareness within each person where talent originates. In order to discover and use our talents, we must look within and allow that which we already are to be awakened and articulated. We all have latent talents that can be unveiled and expressed in enterprising and creative ways. Every conscious human being can learn to do this! Continue reading »

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Dec 072013
 
NLP - The Good, The Bad & The Ugly!

Here it is, plain and simple: NLP is easy to learn!

Many people become interested in learning NLP for various reasons. For some it’s personal development or healing; for some it’s to sharpen their coaching, therapy, teaching, leadership or public speaking skills; for some it´s an exploration of what makes us tick as humans and what extends our potential; for some it´s to gain powerful skills that can be used to influence and persuade others.

What motivates people to learn NLP could be anything, which means that unethical people may see opportunities in this, and therein lies the reason why so many NLP ‘Experts’ are not in alignment with and working according to the NLP Presuppositions.

Technician or Practitioner/Trainer?

Since NLP is easy to learn, anyone can become a NLP technician. A NLP technician is someone who Continue reading »

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Oct 142013
 
Treating PTSD with NLP

Research suggests that the Visual-Kinaesthetic Dissociation Technique from the field of NLP is an effective approach to healing post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

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According to the National Health Service, PTSD is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing events, for example:

  • military combat
  • serious road accidents
  • terrorist attacks
  • natural disasters, such as severe floods, earthquakes or tsunamis
  • being held hostage
  • witnessing violent deaths
  • violent personal assaults, such as sexual assault, mugging or robbery
  • any situation where a person feels extreme fear, horror or helplessness

PTSD can develop immediately after someone experiences a disturbing event or it can occur weeks, months or even years later. Wikipedia published that the diagnosis may be given when a group of symptoms such as disturbing recurring flashbacks, avoidance or numbing of memories of the event, and hyperarousal (high levels of anxiety) continue for more than a month after the traumatic event.

What are the signs of PTSD? Continue reading »

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Jun 022013
 
NLP Coaching

NLP Coaching includes the basic goal of traditional coaching, which in a nut shell is the formation of a partnership that helps people produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional life.

To get powerful, rapid and lasting results in coaching, it is essential that the methods employed reach and influence the unconscious (subconscious) mind. The unconscious mind houses the emotions, imagination, memory, habits and intuition. It also regulates our autonomic body functions. It is the very core or essence of how we experience ourselves and the world. Most, if not all issues like motivation, procrastination, indecision, conflicting priorities, overwhelm, performance anxiety, fear, and burnout are a result of automatic (unconscious) reactions and patterns. Meaningful development and transformation in coaching, results from a shift in the unconscious mind. Continue reading »

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Nov 122012
 

Triggers are the things that initiate thoughts, feelings and behaviours. There are triggers that boost performance and triggers that cause us to perform less than optimally.

In order to perform your best, you want to begin by dealing with any obstacles and interferences that prevent you from achieving your desired results. This means becoming aware of the triggers that get you down and changing their effect into more resourceful responses.

Most of our unwanted behaviours are triggered below the level of our conscious awareness, which is why trying to change an unwanted behaviour or reaction without addressing its underlying belief and trigger usually results in failure. Continue reading »

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Nov 082012
 

Jevon Dängeli’s ambitious title of this book – The User Manual for Your Mind & Your Life clearly states what you will have by reading it and doing the exercises. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP for short) offers not just what you should do to be happier and more effective in life, it provides specific how to’s for accomplishing what it is that you’d like to achieve. It is the kind of book you can keep and refer back to for helpful solutions to your life’s problems as they arise.

Carl Jung, the Swiss Psychiatrist who contributed so much to the field of psychology, once said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” Coaching yourself implies that you are indeed examining your life and are taking charge of your life experience. In Jevon’s chapter on Everyday Heaven and Hell, he explains what the “unconscious mind” is all about and how Heaven is living consciously and Hell is living unconsciously. This book will help with that as well.

In my 25 plus years of teaching people Neuro-Linguistic Programming, I have often been asked, “Can you do NLP processes on your own issues by yourself?” This easy to read book will help you do exactly that. Jevon has identified a number of issues that we all face and has compiled explicit NLP methods you can employ to “coach yourself” and resolve them. You will discover how to identify and develop your goals so they are achievable and likely to occur.

You will learn how to deal with challenging issues that are easily found by topical titles in the book. These include how to resolve problem memories that trouble you, fears and phobias that hinder you, making boring or unpleasant things you must do more fun, how to eliminate unhealthy cravings and much, much, more. Some NLP Processes have been scrutinized scientifically with great results. For example, Continue reading »

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Oct 232012
 

This article highlights why the world is the way it is at the moment, and what you can do about it…

People represent the world internally to create their own personal and subjective realities. We respond mainly to our internal experience (map of reality), not to the external reality itself.

But, the map is not the territory!

How we experience and define reality is based on our neurological filters. These filters are programmed in our mind as a result of our cultural and educational upbringing as well as our significant life experiences. Our personal filters (like beliefs and values) determine how our mind perceives all our experiences. These unconscious perceptions influence our mental and emotional state – leading to related behaviours.

How we represent things in our mind are our perceptions. These perceptions may or may not be accurate. In any case, they determine how we experience each moment, and therefore lay the foundation for our experience of reality in the future too.

Therefore everything we do is motivated by a perception of what we think is required in order to Continue reading »

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Oct 222012
 

To start, here’s the bottom line of the article that follows: You are already forgiven and there is nothing to forgive!

In Wikipedia forgiveness is defined as: “The renunciation or cessation of resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offence, disagreement, or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.”

I bold the word perceived in the above definition, as therein lies heart of the matter – it’s our perceptions that cause us to judge and our judgements that categorize something as forgivable or unforgivable.

When I was a young boy, our church minister preached forgiveness as a prerequisite to entering the golden gates to Heaven. “Turn the other cheek” we were told. We were taught that it’s necessary to forgive the wrongdoers in order to free ourselves from the pain of injustice. It was made clear what is “right” and what is “wrong”. Wrongdoing, we were told, requires forgiveness, or we’ll forever have to deal with the anguish that it ensues.

So just forgive and all will be fine. Is it really that simple? Continue reading »

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Oct 162012
 

This reference page introduces several popular NLP techniques, linking to practical explanations and guidelines for each technique.Neuro-Linguistic Programming techniques

> How to get rid of phobias and trauma using NLP

NLP’s Visual-Kinaesthetic Dissociation Technique (also known as the Fast Phobia Cure and Rewind Technique) helps to eliminate the effects of traumatic memories. It can be deeply healing for individuals who suffer from PTSD, with results being both rapid and sustainable. Intense fear of people, animals, objects or situations that are not harmful or dangerous (know as a phobia) is most often easily treated with this technique.

V-K Dissociation enables people who suffer from phobias or traumatic memories to reprogram their brain’s response to the original (causal) experience. It does this through separating (dissociating) mental pictures (V) and their associated feelings (K) so that irrational fear and behaviour in specific contexts are no longer triggered.

Continue reading here…

> The NLP technique for internal conflict resolution

NLP’s popular Parts Integration technique is a useful skill to overcome ‘bad habits’, indecision, procrastination and all sorts of internal conflicts.

Emotional experiences throughout life, and especially during the early imprint years can result in the creation of Parts at the unconscious mind. These Parts generate their own values and beliefs, and are responsible for certain behaviours. Overwhelming feelings and reactions, as well as out of control behaviours are the result of ‘Conflicting Parts’.

The NLP Parts Integration technique creates harmony between Parts of the unconscious mind, so that their values are in alignment. A person with ‘Integrated Parts’ is more congruent, empowered and clear in their decisions and actions.

Continue reading here…

> How to ANCHOR Resourceful States

Anchoring is one of NLP‘s most powerful and versatile techniques.

The form of Anchoring technique that I’ll provide you with is one where you will be able get yourself into a feel good or high performance state anywhere, anytime.

NLP Anchoring techniques are probably the most powerful set of tools in the coaching and therapeutic repertoire. They are “handles” that allow one to capture, stabilize and reproduce a particular state. Anchors enable the coaches and therapist to work in the here and now, as opposed to talking about experiences or using regression, which may lead to insight, but not actual change. In general, Anchoring is used to help people restructure their internal experience.

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> Conquering Your Craving

If you have a craving for something that you would prefer to not crave, then the following skill is for you.

The NLP Swish Pattern is a valuable part of any addiction cessation program. By using this skill on a regular basis you may be able to reduce or even eliminate cravings for substances like sugar, caffeine, tobacco, alcohol, as well as overcome unwanted behaviours and reactions.

Continue reading here…

> Getting Motivated & Staying Motivated

People feel motivated when they have a goal in mind with a clear picture of a positive end result and a sense of excitement about achieving it. People are not motivated when what they’re (supposed to be) doing is perceived as having little (or no) relevance to their personal goals.

No matter where you are or what you’re doing, you can motivate yourself into action by connecting the task at hand with your long-term goal. Even if you think you have to do something because you don’t want to suffer the consequences of not doing it, there is a positive long term goal that completing your current task brings you one step closer to.

Continue reading here…

> How to feel less intimidated or annoyed by someone

Thoughts and feelings about things we like have typical distinctions; so do thoughts and feelings about things we don’t like have typical distinctions.

To gain control over your thoughts and feelings all you need to do is elicit their distinctions and then change those distinctions into those of the thoughts and feelings that you would like to have.

These distinctions are referred to as Sub-modalities in NLP.

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> How to Change Your Personal History

With an understanding of NLP, the idea that “it’s never too late to have a happy childhood” becomes real. No matter what you experienced in your past, you have the ability to change your perceptions and beliefs regarding the past so that you can feel better about it right now.

There is more to us as humans than merely the sum of our past experiences. How we usually react to situations is largely determined by our past conditioning, however, we can choose how we want to feel and how to respond differently than our past habitual tendencies.

You can change your personal history by taking your current level of awareness (and life experience) and integrating it at those times of your life when you were less resourceful and being negatively influenced. You can easily imagine doing this and in so doing you’ll be re-coding the meaning which you give those past events. When negative past experiences take on a new resourceful meaning in your life, then your beliefs change and you become a more whole YOU.

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> How to make BIG decisions small

Struggling to make your mind up? That’s understandable when the choice is between staying in the safe job (security) and starting their own business (uncertainty); or between staying in their relationship (familiarity) and separation (unknown); or between immigrating (adventure) and staying close to family (stability); etc.

We become terribly stuck in our thinking when we get caught up between only one thing and another, thereby deleting all the other possibilities that might also be present. There is a way out of the dilemma of “this or that”. And it starts by becoming more aware of what’s pulling us in seemingly opposite directions. In NLPwe refer to this as a values conflict. The good news is that we can learn to utilize the state (feeling) associated with a core value to inspire the decision that serves our best interest.

Continue reading here…

> Overcoming Mental Obstacles

What would you attempt to do if a successful outcome was inevitable, knowing that you could not fail?

Think about all the possibilities… What do you want to bring into your life? How would you like to be?

As long as you’re in the resourceful state associated with the achievement of your dream, you’ll find ways of manifesting it. As soon as that internal dialog begins which tries to talk you out of going for it and keeps reminding you of all the difficulties and dangers involved, then you’ve stumbled upon a mental obstacle. This is the kind of thing that prevents people from living the life they could be living.

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> FIND THE GAP

The following technique focusses on how you can effectively overcome negative self talk, emotional reactions, runaway thoughts and things that go bump in the night.

We all have them – thoughts! Some work for us and some work against us. Nevertheless, as Byron Katie puts it: “Thoughts are harmless, unless you believe them.”

If you have uncontrollable unresourceful thoughts, then trying to replace them with positive thoughts or trying to stop them is futile.

What we resist persists. Thoughts need fuel to exist. They need our attention, and their favourite form of attention is: “Oh I wish I wasn’t thinking this again!”

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> The NLP Communication Model

The NLP Communication Model explains how we take information from the outside world into our neurology and how that in turn affects our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

As human beings, we’re constantly taking in information through our five senses and processing it at an average rate of about 4 million bits of information per second. A vast majority of this information absorption and assimilation takes place unconsciously. Consciously trying to process all this information might be fun, but it certainly wouldn’t be sustainable or practical. Therefore, in order to discern and utilise relevant information, our nervous system filters it.

The reality that we experience is largely determined by what we do inside our heads.

Continue reading here…

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